this is the fet life

I came across (ahem) a MySpace type site for the kinksters the other day - Fetlife it's called, and although I haven't really had a chance to see if it's something I need or want in my internet life yet (a couple of stalker experiences on Friends Reunited kind of soured the whole 'networking' idea for me, way back when), I can see the appeal.

And I owe something to that site already. For there I was, idly filling in my profile, you know; all the usual age, sex, location questions found on every other bloody profile-based website in the world. Then the question of my sexuality came up (surprise surprise); heterosexual, homosexual, bi-sexual, pansexual... so I idly ticked the bi-sexual box, because that's the box I always tick. Because as much as I dislike that term, there never seemed to be a better option.

But afterwards, something didn't seem quite right. Perhaps it was because I've never liked the term 'bisexual', and yet there it was in bold letters next to my name, or perhaps it was something else. My mind pondered the choices I had in that question, and 'pansexual' kind of stuck there, like a sticky label or something. You don't see that on every other bloody profile-based website in the world (not even the swinging/BDSM ones). In fact, it's a word I see so little of, I quite forgot that it even existed. But I felt curiously drawn to it in a way I definitely wasn't the last time I heard it (which was probably sometime in 1999).

So I went back, and ticked that box instead.

And then, I went and rubbed a wok all over my naked body.